Negative people, if you let them, will suck the joy out of your life. They are skilled at seeking out people who will enable their toxic behavior--usually their prey are highly empathetic people. The negative person will take anyone who shows them empathy for all they are emotionally worth. To be sure, it can be difficult to handle these individuals. And although you might want to help them, your efforts will often go unappreciated or will be met with more derisive remarks. It's a roller coaster of a ride but you don't have to participate.
Here are 9 strategies to help you handle negative people:
1. Choose your battles
You do not have to participate every time someone irritates you. The act of engaging welcomes the negativity into your life. Do your best to ignore toxic comments. Control your emotions. This will help deescalate the situation. Others will respect you and you will respect yourself for taking the high road.2. Do not judge or assume
We all come from different walks of life. Some of us haven’t learned how to appropriately control emotions and handle stress. Others have had rough lives that have contributed to their negative outlook. And your standard of living doesn’t always match up to that of others. Being so, judging others or assuming anything about their lives is not only narrow-minded, it’s an ineffective approach to problem solving. When dealing with a negative person, you would do well do operate on facts alone.
3. Stay positive
Your well-being is too important to let anyone’s rude comments affect how you view yourself. Remember, their negativity has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. If you must be around this person, try exuding your positivity and confidence with a big smile. As a result, they might adopt your contagious mood. Or, if that fails, they will find your happiness repulsive and they will remove themselves from your life.4. Set boundaries
You are under no obligation to sit and listen to a negative person. Set limits and put some space between yourself and this individual. If you have to be around a negative person, try to keep your time with them short. However, depending on the situation, doing this may prove to be difficult. Even so, see if you can spend slightly less time around them. Doing this will keep your own spirits from falling as well.5. Change the subject
Derail the negativity train by changing the subject. However, simply changing the subject without first acknowledging their remark will make you come off as rude. You don’t have to enable them by offering sympathy, but you can say something such as “oh, I see”, then redirect the conversation elsewhere.6. Don’t take on their problems
While empathy can be a blessing, it can also be a curse. Feeling what others feel can help you understand their struggles, but that doesn’t mean you have to take on the burden. Negative people seek out anyone who will show them sympathy. Don’t fall into their trap. And don’t fall victim to false guilt. If you didn’t cause the problem, you are under no obligation to fix it. This especially applies to people who refuse to talk about solutions. No matter how badly you feel for not doing anything, with some people, know that your efforts would likely be fruitless.
